Q: Jill, how can both men and women keep from tempting the other sex?

Deep down, you and I both know how. You don’t need a seminar and you don’t need a book. If we’re honest, we know if we’re fluttering our eyelids or giving that signal. Certainly, we know if we’re overstepping the mark and tempting the other sex. So you have to be honest with yourself. Make Psalm 139:23-24 your prayer each day: “Search me, God, and know my heart.... See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”

Q: How can I find the strength I need to not overstep the line when I’m attracted to someone?

When you catch yourself overstepping the line in any sense, that’s where you have to physically say no. And you can do this. The Bible teaches very clearly that we can say yes or no — no matter what our desires. Ask God to shout at you when you need to say no, and to give you the power He promised.

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