A: Jill, how should a couple deal with the personality differences that can drive each other crazy?

Stuart and I have been married 57 years—and we can both tell you that driving each other crazy at times never stops. But the answer to this dilemma is to accept each other’s differences. Whatever you do, don’t try to change your spouse so they behave like you want them to behave. Know that God has made them different for a purpose. Attempt to find some good in what’s driving you crazy and celebrate it. I’ve found this to work for me. If the personality difference is a good difference and not just a bad habit, then talk about it, celebrate it, and thank God for how He’s going to use that. 

A: I’m struggling with being single and depressed about being alone. Does the Bible have anything to say to me? 

In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul encourages people not to marry because singleness is a “gift from God” (verse 7). Why is it a gift? Because when you’re single, you can give yourself fully to what God wants you to do. You’re not distracted by the responsibilities of caring for your spouse. A life of singleness, fully surrendered to Christ, is a place of incredible richness. So while you wait on God for His leading, trust that this season of singleness is a gift God has given to you to enjoy. And remember, you’re never alone. As Psalm 139:9b-10 says, “If I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.” 


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